Touch Thursday- 4- Idea of Perfect Date

My idea of perfect date would be to date my best friend, who was with me on my growing years- golden age of person’s life- teenage!

The reason I want to date him is the maturity level and understanding between both of us. It was not like we fell for each other or any one of us fell for each other. Neither we were going to get married, but the bond we shared was amazing. Now, the demands of life has gripped both of us and we still miss the times spent together and grab little time we get to meet if we are in each other’s cities.

“Hey you have to take an off from work in coming week, as I will be in your town”.

“Great, how come? When are you coming? And what is the schedule?

“I have planned a painting exhibition in your town which will be next week, so I will be there”

“Oh! That’s great! I would be so nice to meet you after long time. Come soon. Eagerly waiting, for you and as usual your surprise.”

( I smiled from heart, he guessed I will have some surprise for him, I need to inform him about my visit due to work, otherwise I would have surprised him by directly giving a call on reaching anyways I have other ways to make time memorable)

Well the surprise is-

We will go for brunch, have our stomachs filled sharing a good laughter. Then as he is a volunteer in social projects by Iskon Temple, I would love to accompany him for the project i.e. providing midday meals to school students. It is such a wonderful feeling to contribute for a cause, for people who are less fortunate. Then after that, I would love both of us to go for shopping spree. As I would love to gift him some things of his choice (and off course receive in return). Then after spending ample time picking things, I would love to go for long walk on a beach, alongside sea shore, enjoying sunset and having ice gola.

After that, as I am an art lover, I would love to attend a musical concert or visit art exhibition or cultural programmes in the town. Such is my idea of perfect date!

Touch Thursday 3- Things I want in a Man

‘Men should come with an instruction manual; it is so hard to understand them’

So true, but in both the cases, as it is difficult for women to understand men, same way it is difficult for men to understand women, because we fail to realize the basic difference between both the gender.

Just like men are practical and logical, women are emotional. Men solve their issues by not talking, and women by only talking, it is their need for sharing. Men do not like giving instructions, whereas women like being accompanied in majority of tasks.

So turning to my side of the story:

 Anjali dated six men and rejected all of them, still finds it difficult to find Mr. Right. As they say "Marriages are made in Heaven" this statement proves so true here. No matter how many people you meet and reject, you find your compatible person only one. You marry only one person. Here are some aspects I cannot ignore in a person.

           1.)    Love, care and support:  Love is such a tonic, without which human beings can’t survive. It’s the basic need of girl to be loved, to be cared. No matter how much it is in your heart, it should show. Care in its various forms like, caring for choices, tastes, likes, dislikes, doing things without being told, giving surprises. No matter how much both of us fight, these things, conceal them and makes the relationship going. Support for the ambitions, goals and dreams I want to achieve in life.

             2.)    Respecting my space and individuality: Respecting my space, letting me do things I have been doing, without which I am incomplete. He should have his say, but no interference or domination. That intellectual capacity and wavelength he should possess.

         3.)    Noticing and complimenting: Noticing small things and complimenting in front of everyone, very important. Compliment encourages you to reciprocate the same amount or even more love to the person. Taking things for granted, simply to keep up his male ego is not my cup of tea, then and there appreciating things is very important.

Why are kids early on maturity ???

We hear many people whine about kids not listening to them for studies, not taking up good lessons, but have we introspected enough?

Why do kids behave in such a fashion?

Why are they mannerless?

Have we found the root cause of it?

Kids are innocent (less aware of things than you) then why complain kids?

Very true, it’s not the kids who are at fault, but parents.

Because they get their colas and burgers very easily, they don’t listen to you. In earlier days, we had to pay the price of seeing Chitrahaar on Sunday, by doing homework for the whole week. Our pleasures were priced. But now days, parents themselves make junk too easily available for them.

When SSC was the best syllabus, but now a days, whether a kid is capable or not, he has no choice, but to go to 8 hours school of CBSE/ICSE syllabus. Where education was once, to give a way of living, now a days it is more of fashion and status quo for parents.

Looking at other side of story, I totally agree that SSC schools have degraded their quality by overcrowded classrooms (teaching 80-90 students in a class), but we are snatching away the most memorable days of life- a carefree childhood.

We want kids to behave as kids of parent’s era, in fast developing and junk atmosphere.

Dear parents, when you have also changed, modified yourselves according to changing times, how can you expect kids to behave like in the past. Very contradictory.

We are cutting trees like anything to park our cars, but we want kids to plant a tree and play outside with friends. Where on one hand, they are scoulded by neighbours for broken window pane or car parking or fight amongst them due to ego - centric kids.

Where does this come from, ego in such small kids?

Why are they so mature?

Why do they feel insulted listening to parents or elders?

The reason is grownups, we are bringing up them in that way. They are taught whom to play with, and whom to skip. They are even taught to lie on phone for their parent’s bosses or boring aunty in neighbourhood.

We cannot ignore the fact, that healthy mind leads to healthy body and healthy body leads to happy life. We deliver on basis of what we intake. Good thoughts and good deeds give us a healthy way of life.

Not to forget, the distractions of modern times, TV, Internet, Mobile phones are a big disease to deal with. We have crumbled then natural process of nature and God, and believe we can control everything from our fate to everything, but we are overlooking the other side of the coin. The recent case of Uttarakhand is an example of this.

The food that is supplied to us is so hybrid, reason being feeding the large population. What goodness is left for new age kids and above that we introduce to them new restaurant and a movie every weekend that leaves them less serious about studies.